“What fear would feed upon, love overlooks.
What fear demands, love cannot even see.”
A Course in Miracles, Text Chapter 19. IV.A.11:4-5
Do you think that your health and your body shape are solely the result of what you eat? I was reading a magazine about food and the latest discoveries in this field and found a very extensive article about diets and weight loss.
Have you ever caught yourself reading these sorts of articles? I confess that I was very interested in the subject and read the article eagerly, in order to find out a magic formula that would help me get rid of my undesired extra pounds. First, the author talked about the various diets and explained why they did not work. I could see that I was anxious, as if wanting to anticipate the outcome and was impatiently saying in my head, “Let’s get on with it! Teach me how to feel good about my own body!”
After explaining things like metabolism and our food choices, the author began the last part of the article with the title: “Diet and your life.” And I thought: “OK, now she will teach me the secret!”
I was a bit disappointed to read what, in fact, I already knew and I guess you know it as well. Weight loss and maintaining a healthy weight is a result of the choices that you make not only once, when you reach your desired weight, but for the rest of your life. “For the rest of my life?” I felt tired just reading that statement!
In addition, it was suggested that, instead of going on a radical diet, everyone should try to find the real reason why they are overweight. That is, what are the concerns, fears and false beliefs that make us eat more than we need? There can be no meaningful change unless we delve into our beliefs.
This can be replicated to all aspects of our lives. Are you really willing to look at your own discomfort? Instead of looking for the cause, we seek an external solution precisely because facing certain aspects of our personality still seems daunting.
Amazingly, the article suggested that the most effective way to lose weight begins with self-knowledge. Really? Is it possible that all fronts speak about the same thing? Self-knowledge seems to be the center of everything. How can you choose anything if you don’t even know who you are? How can you have healthy relationships with food or other people if you’re not really interested in knowing and communicating with yourself?
Choice is something that must be exercised constantly. You choose all the time, even if you are not aware of it. What is the advantage of losing weight without changing your habits? Similarly, it is naïve to focus on making a single happy choice when happiness is about the choices you make all the time.
In this sense, you can relax and welcome even the times when you choose fear, because, as a conscious learner, you can remember that there is always the possibility to choose again.
The secret of success is to exercise choice and experience the effects of each choice. Then ask yourself: “Am I satisfied with the way I feel?” You can always choose again if you are not happy. There is nothing to lose. What can you lose by trying?
By Juliana Kurokawa