And it happened that Maria went to a restaurant and asked: bland courgette cake. And, guess what? She did not like the delicacy at all. The next day she returned to the same restaurant and ate again: bland courgette cake; and the next day and so on …
Just because she once chose bland courgette cake, does she have to be faithful to her choice and continue to eat this ghastly dish ad infinitum? Or is she free to choose again? Maybe courgette cake with orange, lemon or chocolate?
Sometimes we choose by impulse, curiosity, experience, lack of information, fear, apparent lack of choice, comfort, conformity, rebellion … We make choices for a million different reasons; healthy and not so healthy. But what if we do not like the choice? Do we need to be loyal to it and continue to choose something that does not bring satisfaction, that does not serve, that has no healthy use? Unless the service of this something is to torment us and make our lives horrible?
Did Maria continue to eat this bland cake because she did not think she had the right to choose again, because she forgot that she could choose? Or maybe she did not know that there were innumerable other cakes, perhaps a lot more delicious? Or did she turn this cake into an idol, which gave the cake a power that this cake does not have? This cake is excellent and essential for health, longevity and vigour. This cake has aphrodisiac or rejuvenating properties. If you don’t eat this cake you will get sick.
She might think she was making a bargain: the cake tastes bad, but the benefits are worth it. Or perhaps there is a law: that once a choice is made, it must be “forever”, as it is said in traditional marriages: in wealth and poverty, in health and illness, in happiness and martyrdom, in sanity and insanity, etc.
You hold something or hold onto it, for that something seems to offer some kind of gain, preservation, or fulfil a dictatorial or survival law. You would have endowed this something “outside” with an attribute that is its essence.
Should not our choices serve us: be of service, useful for the purposes we desire? Should not the choices serve to make our life, healthier, more useful, and fun? And when a choice no longer serves, or never served, should not we choose again? Unless behind these choices there are other choices such as: to prove that life has to be difficult and dangerous. Maybe there is a choice to suffer as a way of trying to mitigate guilt, fear or appease vengeful deities. A choice to give away our power of choice and become addicted and dependent on a condition.
We tend to try to preserve what we call “myself”- no matter how miserable this person is, and however much it hurts. But does it have to be this way? Can we change and expand our sense of self, our choice of what we will call “I” and discover an upright and happy self beyond any choice.
by YVONE ELIZABETH SVELGA – Miracle Choice Certified Facilitator
Thanks Yvone for using the amusing situation of repeatly eating a piece of bland cake in such and insightful way! Next week we will hear from Juliana and then Catia before we take a break for 2 weeks. James will start of the New Year.
Much love, the Miracle Choice team.