Yesterday I learned something about acceptance.
Acceptance is not complicated.
You know when it happens inside.
Is it about doing something different?
Is it about stopping something?
You can’t really put the experience of acceptance in words, it’s just simple acceptance, but I’ll try anyway!
For the last few weeks my list of projects has been bigger than usual and the “to do” list was growing and growing. I have help, I am working along with others, but I had judgements about the amount of help and the number of tasks to do. I was aware of my judgements and the tendency to feel sorry for myself. This “poor me” feeling seemed to be going on for days. I was aware of my evaluations but they didn’t shift until yesterday.
My very intuitive friend said to me “you just have to accept – that’s the way things are,” meaning all the things for me to do.
In that moment I had no resistance to her words. I felt an immediate shift inside me. What was missing was acceptance.
Until that moment of acceptance I was aware of my judgements and yet I was still judging.
I was aware of my complaining but I was still criticising others.
I was aware I was seeing myself as a victim and I was agreeing with my self-evaluation.
There was no acceptance of what is: a list of projects and things to do, some help but certain things for me to do. No acceptance that to get the work done, required my time and presence.
You may be thinking: how did accepting all the above bring a wave of peace, lightness and even joy?
It was because I wasn’t arguing with what is.
I had stopped evaluating the situation, myself and others.
Judgement had dropped away.
Byron Katie is a master of accepting what is. She calls what is, “reality.”
I am a lover of what is, not because I’m a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality. We can know that reality is good just as it is, because when we argue with it, we experience tension and frustration. We don’t feel natural or balanced. When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless. Byron Katie from “Loving What is”
For the last week or so we’ve been busy with live trainings and online games both in Brazil and the UK. We’re really pleased with the launch of the Pocket Game one day training. We’re particularly good at making our programmes valuable to each person. We don’t want to make clones out of participants but help them find their own individual, unique, loving expression in the role of a guide or a facilitator.
Some pictures are below and James gives you an update with his experience of reading A Course of Love in this week’s video.
Much love, The Miracle Choice Team