If you see someone in emotional or physical pain and act to relieve suffering because you see them as them as vulnerable, then you hurt yourself.
You can only see others as vulnerable if you first have an image of yourself as attacked and hurt. Your inner image is like a set of glasses that you look through and see hurt and needy people outside of you. Then you act in a way that you imagine would be helpful if you were in a similar vulnerable position. But is that really helpful? It is in fact hurtful because you are reinforcing an mistaken perception of both you, and the other person.
Trust not your good intentions. They are not enough. Text 380
Spirit sees us as we really are – secure, strong and loving. We are a powerful decision maker who has made a choice to believe we are not who we really are. If we think we are a vulnerable self then Spirit teaches us we are wrong and does not reinforce our mistaken perception.
If you see the person as they really are, you may act differently. When you see with the eyes of Spirit you have many more options about what to say and do. You are limited when you act only to save others. But if you desire to support others to experience the Love that you are feeling then you may be guided to say or do things that seem strange or unusual, and they will always be truly helpful.
When I act with the perception that my children are hurting each other with the words they use, then I stop for a moment and ask for help. I am aware I have mistakenly believed that I am vulnerable to the criticism of others and by trying to save my children from each other will reinforce the mistake. With help I stay in a Loving space that feels secure and needs no defense. I silently invite my children to join me in that place. They often kick and scream even more because I am not taking sides but usually they eventually join me in that place. What could be more helpful?
This blog was inspired by insights from playing a Miracle choice game and so a couple of the cards from that game are posted.