Identity Card 5.
A slow moving car pulls out forcing me to slow down. I am annoyed and frustrated. My negative feelings are clearly justified.
Miracle Key: I am never justified making other people responsible for my feelings because I decide how I feel.
Identity Card number 5 from the Miracle Choice Game takes an everyday situation where we can easily loose our patience and ask if we can justify our negative reaction. Surely getting annoyed is natural if we are late for work or an appointment and someone drives in a way that slows us down?
Getting annoyed is as consequence of judging others. We have judged the other driver as being inconsiderate, unaware, reckless or whatever and that is where our emotions are coming from.
If we find out that the driver is a little old lady who is clearly struggling to judge distances and speed, we may change the thoughts or story about what happened and our frustration may pass. The situation is still the same but the thoughts in our mind have changed and so we feel better.
Why did our judgments come up in the first place? Did we have no choice about the judgments or story that came into our mind when the car pulled our in front of us? Are negative judgments just a natural consequence of events?
We can probably remember a situation when the very same thing happened and we were not bothered. Maybe we were happily talking to a friend, or looking at a beautiful scenery and we just slowed down and waited for an opportunity to overtake. What was different? We decided not to give the external event the power to take away our peace of mind.
Giving away our power is a choice. Nothing external can affect us unless we decide it can. We are that powerful. We are responsible for our experience.
Our choice of judgments, thoughts and stories are the way that we give our power away or stay connected to our true identity.