I was driving the car along windy single track roads on the West Coast of Scotland on our last family holiday. The scenery was beautiful and we were on our way to Iona. There were lots of requests to drive in a certain way, slow down here and stop or instruction on how to avoid other cars. I was beginning to get a little unsettled and my son suddenly said “Daddy don’t choose fear!”
Well I laughed! I even smile now remembering the event. He was right. He sensed my choice to get annoyed and gave me an instruction. It was almost like having Spirit speak directly to me, in the words that I needed.
Don’t choose fear was a reminder:
Not to choose to be annoyed.
Not to decide to let things disturb my peace of mind.
Not to take events seriously.
Not to be bothered by different requests.
Not to have an agenda other than to be present in the moment.
The reminder “Don’t choose fear” was more helpful to me that the request to “Choose love” and I wondered why?
I’m aware that when you ask someone not to give their attention to something that they then immediately think of the thing you just mentioned. An often quoted example of this is saying to someone “Don’t think of a pink elephant” and then they immediately visualise a pink elephant.
The instruction “Daddy don’t choose fear” was a wake up call to remind me that I was already choosing fear and not to be so sloppy with my decision. I can’t be motivated to make another choice if I’m not first aware of the decision I am already making and its effect on me. That is why the words “Don’t choose fear” were so helpful. The instruction did not stimulate me to choose fear because I had already made that choice.
I so enjoy recognising my inner life even if it isn’t a pretty picture. When I go inside I immediately know I am responsible for my decisions. I love the idea of responsibility because it means claiming my power to change my experience is up to me.
Post a comment below and let me know what you think of the instruction “Don’t choose fear!”
When I was finishing this post the news of attacks in Paris was on the headline news. “Don’t choose fear!” seems a difficult instruction for many people today – my thoughts are with them.