Last week I listened to a video of Dr Wayne Dyer telling the story about his time at university when he was studying for his Ph.d.
http://www.drwaynedyer.com/iamlight-video3 (Story starts around 4 minutes into the video)
His professor was giving a mid term exam. He said “A self actualised man shows up at a dinner party. Everyone is dressed in formal attire, suits and gowns, and he is dressed in a pair of blue jeans, tee shirt and baseball hat. What does he do?”
Dr Wayne Dyer explained that his professor then allowed everyone to write their answers for 20 minutes. People wrote things like:
He wouldn’t change his clothes.
He wouldn’t get worked up.
He wouldn’t apologise.
The professor came back and listen to all the responses and said “You have all failed.”
The answer is only three words. He wrote on the blackboard: “He wouldn’t notice”
We notice things don’t we!
We notice if people are friendly towards us, agree with what we say, are polite, turn up on time, do what we ask – the list is endless.
How often do we not notice? Not noticing how what we say effects others, because we are just doing our thing and not looking for any result. Not noticing people being rude, driving inconsiderately, being selfish or being critical.
I love this idea of not noticing because it gives us a hint of another way of living. A way of just being present to the love inside and outside without concern for anything else. Delightful!
It might seem to some people to be a “switched of” way of being. Some might even judge it as uncaring or indifferent.
But we would of course not notice their judgements!