My daughter was confused about what cereal she was allowed.
Our children are allowed a “weekend cereal” as a treat which is different from a “weekday cereal”. That means a cereal that contains chocolate, is sugar coated, has different shapes or whatever.
It was Thursday morning and the “weekday cereals” were running low and I had already bought a couple of “weekend cereals”. I was OK about starting the weekend early as far as cereal was concerned but my daughter thought it best to also check with Catia, her mother. Now Catia doesn’t like cereals (processed and too much sugar) and also likes to be consistent with directions to our children. So predictably she was not so keen on changing the rules and being exposed to the effects of having inconsistent directions for children.
I noticed my daughter’s confusion and I started to think about the discomfort that lack of consistency brings. I have also decided to look with Catia at what we want to teach our children about sugar and processed foods but as this is not a nutritional article I will just confine myself to the topic of consistency!
In a online definition of consistency the following words caught my attention: “lack of change, lack of deviation, dependability, reliability”.
Consistency of direction means going only in that direction. Inconsistency is changing direction and the result is often confusion.
When we start out on a spiritual path or a direction for our lives that reflects our spiritual path, such as a career change, then lack of consistent direction can result not only in confusion but being disheartened, lacking in energy and even depression.
If you have been reading my blogs for sometime you probably know that in the spring I gracefully gave up my veterinary work to focus on the Miracle Choice business. Late summer without consciously looking for it (I think was unconsiously looking!) I was asked to do some veterinary work. Now I find myself with regular part time veterinary work as a self-employed person. More veterinary requests frequently come in and I could be working full-time if I accepted all of them. I usually feel conflicted about agreeing to them and having less and less time for my passion – teaching about choice.
Veterinary work symbolises: security and stability based on the past, the “status quo” or “no change”.
Miracle Choice works symbolises: inspiration, creativity, expression, expansion, fulfilling my purpose, freedom, moving on, newness, learning with others and contributing to their insights.
What direction am I going in? Can I go in two directions? Lack of consistency of direction has become confusing, uncomfortable and progress has slowed. Most people nod their heads in understanding when I tell them, “my veterinary work pays the bills.” But maybe consistent focus on the Miracle Choice business would have also allowed me to pay the bills? That is a really good question to consider!
The snowball effect of lack of consistency has a cost and that is really useful. The uncomfortable and sometimes painful feelings are a wake up call to get back on track.
The dedication, focus and desire to follow your dreams, to stay true to your spiritual path is always there. We don’t have a choice about the direction that has the greatest pull or attraction to us. We only have a choice about how consistent we are in following it. That means thankfully that when we don’t go in that direction consistently there is a cost.
Everyday we have to be vigilant for what tempts us to compromise. It may be the temptation of past security, pleasing our children or pleasing others in our life. We all learn in different ways to become consistent. The pain of inconsistency is a stimulus (if we see it correctly) to get us back on track. Then the rewards of being on track are obvious if we stay there long enough to allow ourselves to experience them.
“Yet you are not sufficiently vigilant against the demands of the ego to disengage yourself. This need not be. The habit of engaging with God and His creations is easily made if you actively refuse to let your mind slip away. The problem is not one of concentration; it is the belief that no one, including yourself, is worth consistent effort.” A Course in Miracles Text Chapter 4 Section IV, paragraphs 6 and 7.