Welcome me not into a manger!
Christmas celebrations and preparations can hide what is really going on underneath – for a while at least. The business of advent, buying presents, sending cards and decorating the house can seem very superficial if there is no real connection underneath all the activity.
Last weekend Catia sensed some conflict was being tolerated in the sake of keeping the peace and covering over what was really going on. She came out with a strong message to all the family that she wanted connection and love – not tiptoeing around others who were being unkind to themselves and those around them. Her desire not to allow anyone to go on hurting themselves hit home for the children.
During the discussion I remembered a line from A Course in Miracles about not making the outer form of Christmas into a big deal when what was important was what was happening inside.
My birth in you is your awakening to grandeur. Welcome me not into a manger, but into the altar to holiness, where holiness abides in perfect peace. A Course in Miracles. Text. Chapter 15. Section III. 9:5-6
We are not being kind when we allow another person to continue with their inner pain and conflict when we can be a reminder to them of who they really are. That reminder may start off with an uncomfortable dialogue about how their behaviour is affecting us and end with a healing experience for everyone.
It is a gift to be reminded of who we truly are. How can that happen when we tolerate someone’s unreasonable and unkind behaviour and suffer in silence? When we tolerate anything other that loving behaviour in others we are actually saying that our unloving thoughts about ourselves are acceptable.
Let us be aware this Christmas when someone is needing help to remember who they really are and remember it can be a gift for both of us. It may be a challenge not to be lazy and settle for superficial niceness. But our desire for true connection will allow us to speak words of love even though it may not be easy for the other person to hear. We may not be coming from a healed place ourselves but our desire for healing will be sensed and welcomed on some level.
What we want is to remember we are love. That love is holy and brings perfect peace. Nothing else will do because deep down we have agreed that we will settle for nothing less.
I wish you perfect peace this Christmas.