Perception 1. Someone makes you annoyed and so they become the cause of your experience.
Perception 2. You choose how you feel and so you are responsible for your own experience.
Both perceptions can seem true to you.
You probably go back and forward between both perceptions.
If Perception 1. is true – you are a victim, afraid and powerless.
If Perception 2. is true – you are free, in charge and you are a gift to yourself and others.
Perception 1. means:
Someone else has power over you.
You are vulnerable.
Others are the cause and you are the effect.
But how did they become so powerful and you so weak?
Maybe you gave your power away?
Maybe you gave your power away because you are frightened of what you have done (and are still doing) with your own power?
Maybe you are using it to see yourself as unworthy, lacking and not good enough?
Fear follows when you believe you must have done something terrible to your true identity. Fear tells you that you have destroyed your loving self and replaced it with an unkind, unreasonable, ungrateful, dishonest, selfish, rude and impatient identity.
One seeming way to reduce your fear is to deny you believe you are unworthy and instead believe that someone else is responsible for how you see yourself. You think your fear is gone if you’re not responsible for how you see yourself. But the fear remains. Fear’s source may seems to be outside yourself but it’s not gone. In fact now you are both fearful of others and the power of your own mind. You have kept fear by projecting it out.
When you next experience that someone makes you upset, stop for a moment and remember:
Giving your power away by believing someone has made you annoyed doesn’t make your fear go away – and you are afraid in that moment!
You are a loving identity and have not done anything to be fearful of.
Blaming others and playing the victim will never satisfy you because of who you really are.
Recognising that “you choose how you feel” is a way out of fear.
Perception 2. not only means that you are free but you set others free as well. Whatever others do or say, you don’t hold them responsible for how you feel. You remind them of their own loving nature by not taking anything personally. What they did or said had no effect on how you feel. This is the gift to others that makes your own loving identity more real to you.
Playing the Miracle Choice Board Game is a way out of fear.