We Are Not Separate
My moment of grace came when I made a deliberate choice to not see my interests as apart from someone else’s.
I was at a communication training event and expressing my needs during a one-to-one exercise. Then I had that moment of grace. I deeply realised that connecting with the need of the other person was my interest in that moment and in every moment. If I was just focused on satisfying my own needs, I was not truly meeting with myself or the other person.
I realised that I cannot think of myself as a separate person and truly meet my needs. It’s not about being a saviour for anyone or about being under obligation to meet the needs of another person so that I can feel good about myself. It is about remembering the contract that we all have with each other. We cannot leave each other out of the journey home and remember our shared identity. We travel together or not at all.
In that moment of grace, I experienced that we are all connected, and behaving as if I wasn’t could no longer satisfy me again. Many times since, I have acted as if I had forgotten that moment; but, in truth, I can never really forget. I’m soon able to recognise that when I’m only thinking about myself, I feel disconnected. Then I choose to have another moment of grace.
Now I know that self-interest in the truest sense includes the interests of others – not just the needs of others on the level of the surviving in this world, but the interest we all share to remember that we are more. More than the physical. Something other than an individual mind.
I believe we can all be in a state of constant grace if we remember that we are love and so is the other person. No matter how the other person is expressing their needs, we can always meet them on the level were we are all joined in love.
This quote from A Course in Miracles was not include in the piece for the book but it gives the context.
” A teacher of God is anyone who chooses to be one. His qualifications consist
solely in this; somehow, somewhere he has made a deliberate choice in which he did not
see his interests as apart from someone else’s.”
Manual for Teachers 1-1
By James Kelly