You probably began life, like most people, thinking that the perfect job, the relationship of your dreams and the house you always wanted was going to make you happy.
And like most people you realised external things didn’t really make you happy. But you also found out it wasn’t that simple to find another way of living. The temptation was to think
“Perhaps a different partner or friends, more money or a change of location is what will make the difference?”
The pain of continuing the search needs to reach a point when you ask
“Is there another way to find happiness other than trying to get pleasure from changing circumstances?”
Then you may discover what I am calling the “2nd Way”of choosing pleasure: “Changing Your Thoughts.” You discover much to your delight that how you feel is a result of your thinking. You become free as you realise that it’s your thoughts about your job and not the job itself that is causing your pain. It’s not your partner that’s driving you mad or giving you pleasure, only your thoughts about them. You realise that emotional freedom is at the “tip of your fingers”, or rather “the tip of your thoughts” if you can master changing your painful thoughts to pleasurable ones. It gets even better when you realise that choosing better feeling thoughts inspires you to different actions and things start to work out well for you. You seem to have some control over shaping your life the way your want it. And why not! You’re taking personal responsibility for how you feel and what you think.
But perhaps your personal thoughts, your fantastic life and the power you feel inside is somehow not enough. What do I mean not enough?
Well it’s all concerned with shaping your individual, separate life. It’s still your limited emotional life and getting what you’re focused on. And that cannot really satisfy because your true identity is not separate. It’s connected to everyone and is not limited by time and space. At some point you may ask if the negative, conflicting, attack thoughts – that you are so good at changing into good feeling thoughts – are something you’re choosing and even wanting? Maybe a choice is happening deeper inside? Maybe you are choosing against pleasure? Maybe if you sit still and stop changing your painful thought you will see you’re the one choosing them in the first place. If so, is there a choice for true pleasure inside? Is the 3rd way, simply the choice for pleasure, for love, to remember the identity that is you in truth?
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