We talk so much here about our power of choice and how can we choose love instead of fear and what does it mean?Once you know this ever-present possibility, perhaps, you have the false impression that when you walk the spiritual path, you will be happy and joyful all the time. That because you are aware of your power of choice, you no longer have the “right” to have any emotion considered negative, such as anger or sadness. And my question to you is:
Considering all of your human aspects, do you believe this is possible?
We know that no matter what happens externally, it could never make us happy or sad. No circumstance has the power to influence what we think or feel, unless we want it do so. However, we must be very careful with our attitude of not letting anything affect us. When we are sad or angry, instead of recognising that we have given our power to something that takes our peace away, we try to hide such feelings, we make them even more real. When we repress our negative feelings, we do not give ourselves the possibility of healing.
Some situations, such as the loss of a loved one, breaking up a relationship, loss or change of job, moving houses, often require a period of grieving. Even if we know that we always carry our loved ones in our hearts, or that we will move to a better home or job, we may still need some time to digest and experience a deep period of grieving.
And why not cry copiously or go through an internal retreat of “detachment”?
The Miracle Key of Identity Card 1 brings a very important aspect of the feelings that we consider negative. They serve the purpose of showing us beliefs that are still unconscious and that make us choose painful thoughts. They are only a warning that shows us that at some point we chose to disconnect from love.
However, how can we find that out if, at the first sign of discomfort, we try to escape from this sensation and pretend that everything is okay?
The time of grief is important so that we can truly internalize, deepen within ourselves, and identify which thought is causing us pain. Then, we can truly say goodbye not to the person, to the job, or to the house itself, but to the choice of making our happiness depend on each of them, the role we gave them in our lives.
It takes a lot more courage to experience a moment of deep sadness or anger intensely and admit to ourselves our real inner state than to simply turn the page and move on as if nothing was happening.
So if you are feeling sad for the loss of someone or something, live this moment intensely, without fear. You do not have to be afraid to suffer or be angry for suffering. On the contrary, choosing love can mean accepting whatever you feel, regardless of whether it is considered good or bad.
Putting a false smile on your face and pretend to yourself that all is well when, deep down, it is not, is a choice for fear. Fear that some things are not allowed. A belief that it is only possible to love some parts of you. You can look kindly at yourself and at your process and smile, even with tears in your eyes, knowing that your power of choice does not deteriorate over time. You embrace and tell yourself that you are worthy of love regardless of your choices. Do this exercise and see how healing comes!
by Juliana Kurokawa
News and Insights
We at Miracle Choice are getting in touch with two groups of people:
- Coaches, Therapists and Counsellors who already work professionally with one of the Miracle Choice games so we can find out about more about how the games are helping and what we can do to support you better.
- We want to talk to anyone who works with individuals or groups but doesn’t use one of the games. We image there are times when your clients experience blocks or challenges and you could benefit from an innovative and fun way to work with them. We are developing tools and trainings specific to support you and we want to make sure they are relevant to the work you do.
The conversation will take place online using Zoom in groups of 2-4 people. You can reply to this email to arrange a time that suits you. Please let us know if you are in group 1 or 2. This is not a meeting to sell you something. We will be listening to your issues so that we can get clarity on how best to support you to help your clients move forward even though they are not fully conscious of what is holding them back.
Much Love, James, Catia and Juliana