First of all I want to bring examples of how the word vulnerable is described in some dictionaries and, consequently, in our society: helpless, insecure, defenseless and weak. Well, with these ideas in mind it’s understandable why so many people are afraid or don’t allow themselves to feel or to be seen as vulnerable.
But vulnerability has also its beautiful purpose: to open ourselves, to accept and honour our feelings, to allow ourselves to be seen, to express how we really are and who we really are. Only then we can have a true and whole connection with ourselves, with others and with the Universe. In this sense I’d say it’s an expression of courage and inner strength to allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
With this combination of different meanings and emotions, how you do you deal then with the vulnerability of a friend or a client? How can you create a relationship and an environment of trust so they can access and heal deep wounds during a conversation or appointment?
I believe there are many ways but I believe it starts with you, as a friend, coach or therapist, allowing yourself to be vulnerable. This doesn’t mean having to get in contact with your pain and do your own therapy during the session. It means not needing to wear masks, or to know everything, or to be stronger or to fix the other person. Simply it means to be present, reflecting love and allowing whatever needs to happen. Without fear, without labels, without restrictions. This is empathy for the other person’s vulnerability.
The Miracle Choice game is a beautiful companion in moments like this. Its playful and light presence deals with delicate issue in an impartial and loving way. Using the game or not, maybe all we need is a reminder of what true compassion means.
by Catia Vasconcelos
News and Insights
We have started a series of blog posts that look at how we interact with others in casual or professional situations. This idea makes the assumption that others are separate and different from us. but if you read the articles carefully you will see that we don’t really believe that! Catia for example points out that if we are comfortable with being vulnerable ourselves then dealing with “other people’s” vulnerability is much easier. Maybe other people are a reflection of ourselves, our thoughts, our fears and our love?
Playing the Miracle Choice game with your inner guide takes you to a vulnerable place. Nothing to hide, no masks, no hidden pain – what a wonderful journey. Are you ready for it?
Until the end of this month the Pocket Game actually comes with a free online training called “You Create Pain or Choose Pleasure.” So take advantage of this before it comes down in June.
Much love, James