We are all the same in essence.
However, we all have highly individualized personal scripts and characteristics. Each person has a life history and, more importantly, each chooses a different way to look at everything.
The problem is when we start comparing ourselves. We compare in many ways. If we consider ourselves superior and make comparisons with people who are less capable, less successful, less intelligent, or whatever, there is a thought in our mind that tells us that, in order for me to perceive my own value, I must denigrate the image of another. We would only do this because we don’t trust our own ability. If I trust what I am, I do not need to compare.
On the other hand, when we overvalue someone, we are telling ourselves that we should be different from what we are. And so, instead of concentrating energy on finding and developing our own potential, we focus on the idealized image of the other person, an image we believe we can never reach.
Whatever the case, when we compare, we limit our own self. When the perception of our potential is based on the other, we fail to recognize and develop our own inner potential.
How can I find my true gift if I’m always worried about the neighbour’s grass?
True connections happen when we are authentic and when we are spontaneous in what we do. Then, everything we do is genuine, and that really connects us with people.
Regardless of our profession, when we act without worrying about the performance itself, we allow our inner star to shine.
Our potential, then, manifests naturally, by itself, effortlessly. However, if we are always thinking about peers or setting goals based on other people, we limit this manifestation. Worrying shuts the field of infinite possibilities. The expectation of being in a certain way does not let us see beyond what our limited imagination allows us to.
How would it be if you trusted that you already are all that you can be?
What would it be like to let your true Self manifest without the limitations of comparison?
My heart vibrates by the mere image of how many stars may be hidden out there. Reveal your star to yourself and to the world and do not hide behind another person, no matter how much you admire them.
May we contribute to the great constellation of free and happy people who teach that this is a possible choice for all of us.
by Juliana Kurokawa
News and Insights
I find conferences an interesting opportunity to watch how my mind wants to make comparasions. Comparing one speaker to another or deciding which one I like best is a wonderful way to disconnect from them. What I now find much better is to engage my mind in finding something to appreciate in every speaker or just relax and connect with them from my heart.
When I’m speaking like I am on 22/23 July in Dublin I find it even more important to avoid comparisons. As Juliana asks “How can you find your true gift if you’re always worried about the neighbour’s grass?”
Much love James for
the Miracle Choice Team
James, Catia and Juliana