Honesty is seen as a virtue, but to what extent does it really happen and is in this category?
Does being honest mean being completely honest? Talk about what you think and how you feel regardless of how people can react, all the time? Do what you want instead of what is “right” or expected?
Or are you to be honest in some moments but not in others, because there are situations where you need to be more careful, have respect for others, protect yourself or have good manners?
According to Brad Blanton, psychotherapist and author of the book “Radical Honesty”, we are 100% sincere or we are liars.
I like the idea, I like it very much. After all, what is behind a “silly little lie” or those inventions and secrets we create and feed to appease a situation or get what we want? A lot of things: manipulation, fear of not being loved, insecurity, pretence, superficiality, disconnection with our truth, with our essence. Lies start small and end up shaping the lives of most people. As Brad Blanton says, we end up becoming prisoners of lies in our minds.
I say I like the idea because it’s still an idea for me. But I am very excited and ready to put it into practice, because I believe it can be extremely liberating. I do not think it’s easy, but that’s part of it. Getting rid of a habit requires an initial discomfort that then translates into freedom and transformation.
Everyone may not be ready to adopt the stance of radical honesty. Some people may not be willing or motivated to overcome the way society, past relationships, and sexual or cultural identity have conditioned them to think, behave, and perceive themselves. But those who try and succeed may find that expressing what goes on in their minds in a respectful and understanding way may be the best thing that has ever happened to them and their relationships.
I’m in! I begin my 30 day challenge of radical honesty this week. What about you? Inspired to speak the truth, nothing but the truth?
by Catia Vasconcelos
How to practice Radical Honesty – https://www.wikihow.com/Practice-Radical-Honesty
James is on his way back from the A Course in Miracles (ACIM), San Francisco Conference. New friends made and many new insights. Much support from A Course of Love (ACOL) community about the development of a new game called Revelation. Some pictures below!
Much love, Juliana, Catia and James