Let’s start this blog with the question, “Are you a good storyteller?”
I’ve always had this ability to tell stories and “entertain” those who were listening to them, regardless if they were children or adults. I’m one of those people who creates a different voice for each character, makes different faces, creates a mysterious environment, makes suspense. I think you know someone like that (or maybe you are also like me).
After watching the comedy show “Nanette” by Hannah Gadsby (available on Netflix – UNMISSABLE), I realized that my ability was being used in an unintelligent way – to tell my own story and focus on the parts filled with drama and pain. That’s how I talked about my childhood and adolescence. That’s how I portrayed who I was or who I used to be.
And by telling the story of my life so full of drama, I started believing that this was my identity, and that it was the fundamental substance of my story.
In a conversation with my mother, it became clear to me that I was unaware of part of my story. I had forgotten many connections, friendships, affection, love, and joy. I was hiding from myself all these beautiful things from each experience, as if they were the least important. Believe me, these are the best part of the stories.
To remember the love letters I wrote to people, the smiles I shared, the contact I had with the earth and the animals, the games I played, my belly aching with so much laughter, the loving gaze that protects, the affection, the laughter, the innocent look, the ability to trust the call of the heart… Wow! The list was endless!
So I would like to ask you something else, “How are you telling your story? What are the stories in your life that you have so much contact with, that you may have believed to be the most important ones?”
If you realize that you have given attention to the parts full of drama and trauma, you just need to know that you may have something (or many things) you simply forgot to tell. Simply know you have other stories waiting to be remembered, retold and relived in your memory and heart. You can start bringing them back to your awareness, for the sake of experiencing them again.
I’ll finish my blog by sharing an insight I had after examining the stories I’ve been telling about myself and how I thought them to be my identity: what strengthens me in ANY experience is always the truth. The pain and drama only remain when I’m unaware of what makes me strong, when I forget about my essence. I can always go back to this place of strength, of love. ALWAYS! I only need to think of them.
by Carol Martorelli
Miracle Choice game facilitator and holistic therapist