Something had been upsetting me a lot in the past few weeks.
It had to do with my 16-year-old daughter and her social life.
I thought she wanted to come home too late at night when she went out with her friends, that some of them might not be the best influence for her, and that sometimes she was not telling me the whole story of her plans.
Well, with all this in my mind, no wonder I was upset!
It was interesting to watch how this irritation grew in a few days and turned into something real to me.
I was in a bad mood, felt my body rigid, and began to think, in general, that nothing was right.
Wow! Time to stop and rethink!
Do I want to continue feeling like this?
Is this the kind of relationship I want to nurture with my daughter and others?
I decided to seek help by reminding myself of the wonderful process of Byron Katie called The Work.
I realized that I was believing in all my negative judgments about my daughter and the situation.
I remembered how easy it is to be caught in the trap of the mind and, likewise, how simple it is to get out of it when we are willing to investigate the whirlwind of thoughts that is going on inside us.
Without the intention of changing, but just looking with love and humor to the drama we create.
The drama that, in fact, are just thoughts and nothing more.
Harmless, naive, silly, or not, depending on the power we give them.
Catia Vasconcelos – Master Trainer Miracle Choice
A bit about The Work of Byron Katie
When you have a thought or a belief that is upsetting you, Byron Katie suggests that you ask yourself the following basic questions followed by a turnaround*:
Is this true?
Can you know with absolute certainty that this is true?
How do you react, or what happens, when you believe in this thought?
Who would you be without this thought?
*After enquiring your statement with the four questions, you’re ready to do the turnaround of the situation you’re questioning. Each turnaround is an opportunity to experience the opposite of your original statement and see what you and the person you’re judging have in common.
Learn more about The Work by Byron Katie here: http://thework.com/en