I picked up my teenage son at school the other day and, as he got in the car, he took a deep breath. I asked if everything was fine and he said everything was just fine. After I insisted and asked again, this was his answer: “You know, not everything has a meaning.” He simply sighed. “That’s all.”
That statement made me think and brought me several insights.
How often do we interpret another’s behavior by imagining what they are thinking? How many times have we suffered in anticipation because we’re foreseeing a catastrophe that has not yet happened and will probably not happen?
Have you noticed how difficult it is to be present with what is, and how easily you get lost in your thoughts and believe that your interpretation of reality is reality itself?
My son was teaching me a very deep lesson. In that particular situation, in a matter of minutes, I had imagined a thousand things: I imagined he was tired, that he had had a hard day at school, that he had failed his exam, or was impatient. In fact, nothing had happened, it was just a sigh. Everything else I had made up in my mind.
That very ordinary and everyday moment was important for me to think about other situations in my life. At what other times was I, not only giving meaning to things, but also engaging with the meaning I invented, which had no reality except in my mind?
Knowing about this creative ability of your mind and how you get lost in your thoughts is important so that you can go back to the present moment and relate to the facts rather than your interpretations of the facts.
I’m sure you could connect this text to several moments in your life where you do the same. How about being more aware? You can use the creative power of your mind to open yourself to the possibility that you may not know the meaning of everything, and so life may surprise you with reality, which is probably very different from your imagination.
Finally, I share an excerpt from A Course of Love that summarizes the dialogue we just had:
You give all meaning to everything, and thus you populate your world with angels and with demons, their status determined by who would help you and who would thwart you. Thus do you determine your friends and your enemies, and thus you have friends who become enemies and enemies who become friends. (…) In all scenarios you remain the maker of your world, giving it its causes and effects. If this can be so, how can the world be anything but symbolic, with each symbol’s meaning chosen by you and for you. Nothing is what it is, but only what it is to you. (T-3.7)
Juliana Kurokawa – Miracle Choice Trainer and Facilitator