How do you help others who are in stressful relationships, suffering physically or weighed down with professional problems?
Do you offer to do something to help because you are uncomfortable and you must do something to both relieve the other person’s pain and your own discomfort?
You may say “I’m sorry” or “I know how you feel” (and can you really know how someone else feels?).
Do you tell the story of how you suffered last year and what helped you get over it?
You may be a professional therapist and so you can be present for other people’s pain. You are able to be empathetic without needing to fix anything.
An interesting question to ask is “Who is giving the empathy?”
Are you facing the suffering person as a trained therapist, an experienced coach, or a kind friend?
Or are you sitting with them as simply love?
Trust not your good intentions. They are not enough. T-18.IV.2. A Course in Miracles (ACIM)
Love is not full of knowledge, techniques, strategies, or good intentions.
Love is empty for the other person.
Empty of discomfort and empty of the need to help.
And from the place of stillness and emptiness something happens.
Something you have no control over.
Something that was not prepared and so it will surprise you.
We explore how love looks at many different real life problems and comes up with surprising solutions in the Miracle Choice Facilitator Training. The Miracle Choice game makes it easier to experience being present for others because everything about the game supports a connection with love. And the healing that happens is not just for one player but the whole group and the facilitator themselves.
When I am healed, I am not healed alone. Lesson 137 ACIM
Of course, you do not need the Miracle Choice game or the Facilitator Training to be present with others in the way I am describing.
Empathy is your true nature and you can naturally embrace others with the love that you both share.
Here are the first two lines of the meditation that begins each game:
I choose to take the hand of my inner Guide and join with Love.
With the help of my inner Guide I am ready to look beyond any non-loving thoughts and experience the truth about myself.
Below is a Body card from the game: a gift from love to love.
James Kelly, Creator of the Miracle Choice Games
P.S. To find out more about the online Miracle Choice Facilitator Training starting 11 June 2020 just reply to this email.