This weekend I went to dinner at a friend’s house. It was a spontaneous and relaxed event to celebrate the end of the physical distance rules, and the idea was that each one would bring something to eat.
I’m going to tell you about the trigger for the reflection that I share with you shortly.
You have likely seen a sparrow and can recognize that bird. Now pretend that you only saw this bird once in your entire life.
It is very likely that you don’t remember your first encounter with the sparrow, but let’s assume that you were still a very small child. Let us imagine that your attitude when seeing the sparrow for the first time was one of curiosity and surprise. You looked at its colors, its beak, and observed the movements of its head. Maybe you fed it or maybe you watched it fly away when you tried to approach it.
When learning your language, you were taught that it was a sparrow and, from that moment on, you never saw a sparrow again, but just the concept created in your mind about what the word “sparrow” means. I say this because you, like me, probably believe that you know what a sparrow is and that prevents us from relating to the dynamic nature of the sparrow. Instead we relate to the static idea of what a sparrow is.
That is likely how we relate to everything and everyone around us. We do not relate to reality, which is fluid and always in motion. Instead, we create static images about people and things in our minds and forget to truly look at them.
Now I’m going to tell you about the trigger for this reflection. Let’s go back to dinner at my friends’ house. The guests had different nationalities, but I would like to tell you about a Colombian woman who lived in Brazil for a few years and an American woman. Both, like me, now live in Switzerland.
The Colombian woman brought a milk pudding for dessert and was happily telling me that she got the recipe from a Brazilian friend.
At a certain point, the American guest thanked the Colombian for the “delicious flan” (typical American dessert very much like pudding) and, at that moment, something lit up in my conscience.
I thought it was funny that the American lady left convinced that she had eaten a flan. I, who had eaten the same thing, was sure I had eaten a milk pudding. Do you see how two people living the same circumstance experience totally different realities?
And, going back to the sparrow issue, I kept thinking that I also didn’t realize that I had eaten a milk pudding, made by a Colombian, with Swiss ingredients. Perhaps, if I had put aside the static image I have about puddings in my mind, I could have had a totally different experience. Perhaps the attitude of curiosity towards what was on my plate would have provided me with a state of awe as I looked ‘for the first time’ at the delicacy prepared with such care and love.
As a Miracle Choice facilitator and trainer, I am always awed to witness during a game the players and myself transform an issue just by shifting the way we look at it. The feeling is like eating milk pudding for the first time, and it’s very common to hear from the players: “Wow! How could I not have seen this before?”.
Can you live each day with the awe of those who experience the world for the first time?
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