Years ago, I sometimes repeated the title of the song ‘If You Don’t Know Me by Now’ to my partner.
If you don’t know me by now
You will never never never know me (oh)
All the things that we’ve been through
You should understand me like I understand you… Songwriters: Kenny Gamble, Leon Huff
It was usually in some situation where she was surprised at my way of doing things that I did frequently. Why was she getting annoyed? Did she not know me by now? At other times I used the title of the song as a way of telling her she should be able to predict my needs. She should know my needs by now so why was she not meeting them?
We all want to be understood and accepted as who we are. The situation may be as trivial as the other person remembering that you like a certain type of bread. So why did they buy the sort you don’t like? There is something wonderful about being known. But if you have limited who you are to being a human being with at bunch of needs then you will evaluate how well others respond to you only on the human level.
What if our desire to be known is the desire to be known as who we truly are? I know I am a being that is both human and divine. I sense my divine nature is not a thing and is timeless. In a sense I am always discovering more about my divine self. When I am aware and living the divine mystery then I am much more relaxed in my human interactions.
Do you not know by now that I am always discovering myself?
Do you not know by now that I am often expressing something new from one moment to the next?
Do you not know by now that my actions and responses are just as likely to be unpredictable as predictable?
Do you not know by now that I enjoy not knowing what I will say or do in the next moment?
This level of unpredictability would of course change a relationship in ways that we may not be comfortable with. But then being in a predictable relationship and knowing in advance how the other person would react (as a human being), was never completely satisfying because it was not the whole picture. It also led to the temptation to try and use and control the other person. When you see others as both divine and human then all ideas of using and controlling just fall away. You can enjoy the unpredictable, the unknown.
The whole picture includes both the known and the unknown and is always completely satisfying because it is whole.
By James Kelly
P.S. I was sharing in the two different Miracle Choice courses last weekend what I love and find challenging about playing or facilitating the Miracle Choice games. It is that I don’t know what is going to happen! That the game is an invitation to enter the unknown and the more I play it the more I find I want to live from that place. If you are interested in any of our courses, please reply to this email. Simple buy the game here.