I just started a course in Transactional Analysis, and we were discussing the qualities we would like to see in a psychotherapist. One person said they wanted a therapist to “get them.” Is wanting a therapist, a friend, or partner to “get you,” which means to really see and understand you, a reasonable request? Is… Read more

I just started a course in Transactional Analysis, and we were discussing the qualities we would like to see in a psychotherapist. One person said they wanted a therapist to “get them.” Is wanting a therapist, a friend, or partner to “get you,” which means to really see and understand you, a reasonable request? Is… Read more

I remember once when my son said to me in a playful way “Dad don’t choose fear!” I appreciated the reminder, but I also got a bit frustrated. I thought “I want the freedom to choose thoughts that make me fearful if I want – don’t tell me what to do!” I listened this week… Read more

Lately I’ve been feeling like I’m riding this big roller coaster of feelings. It feels as if an inner door had opened and suddenly all feelings began to manifest in a whirlwind. It was even difficult to honestly answer people’s question about how I was doing. Emotionally, there was a lot of movement within me,… Read more

Lately I’ve been feeling like I’m riding this big roller coaster of feelings. It feels as if an inner door had opened and suddenly all feelings began to manifest in a whirlwind. It was even difficult to honestly answer people’s question about how I was doing. Emotionally, there was a lot of movement within me,… Read more

When someone is in emotional pain, empathy is sometimes the only solution. Have you ever tried to get your point across when the other person is hurting, and they can’t hear you? You feel increasingly frustrated and irritated. This is especially true when you are angry about their behaviour and you believe you are the… Read more

I have been aware of the “problem” of effort for some time. Working hard to achieve something individually was a hallmark of most of my life. Recently I have been thinking of myself as being a bit “lazy.” For a while I have not been achieving or producing much. The feeling that I needed rest… Read more

Life in a physical world involves change. It’s difficult to grasp the idea of change or creation in a non-physical, timeless reality so we will not try to do that in this blog post!. But we can experience change in this world and at the same moment have a intuitive or deep inner awareness of… Read more

Most of us probably use fear and love to describe feelings in same way as we use the words sadness, joy, worry, happiness, anger and peace. A Course of Love (ACOL) informs us clearly: Fear is not a feeling but a response to a feeling. Emotions are responses. You have been told there are but… Read more

You are probably aware of the Miracle Choice Pocket Game, if not please check out here. I was asked to comment on the 70 cards in the game so that players could understand the messages in a deeper way. At first I was reluctant as I did not want to stimulate intellectual understanding rather than… Read more