Last weekend I participated, for the first time, in a family constellation. It was a group of 12 people and lasted the whole weekend. If you have experienced, know or work with the method, you know that it can be a very rich and profound experience. And it was! I’ve had many insights, and I’m… Read more

Never Fit In! Face it. You’ll never fit in. And that’s a wonderful thing. And there’s a very good reason why you’ll never fit in. There’s no such thing as “fitting in.” You see, objects fit in. Things fit in. Lumps of concrete fit in holes. Blocks of wood fit in containers. Humans cannot fit… Read more

I picked up my teenage son at school the other day and, as he got in the car, he took a deep breath. I asked if everything was fine and he said everything was just fine. After I insisted and asked again, this was his answer: “You know, not everything has a meaning.” He simply… Read more

This past weekend I had the grateful opportunity for the first time to hold a wedding ceremony. It was the celebration of the union of two people I love. Little did I know that I was saying “yes” to a grand opportunity to expand my heart and the ideas I had about love. Over the… Read more

In the last month my laptop refused to start. Taking it to the computer shop the diagnosis was “corrupted hard drive.” I didn’t want to fix it so I got out my very, very, old laptop. It functioned for about a week and then decided to stop working. Hmm. Was it a symbol that my… Read more

I took the route beside the school, a path with a high fence on both sides and I realized I was not moving but the fences were moving past me. Taking care of themselves they went proudly on by. A little girl approaches running ahead of her parents and her baby brother in a pram.… Read more

I just started a course in Transactional Analysis, and we were discussing the qualities we would like to see in a psychotherapist. One person said they wanted a therapist to “get them.” Is wanting a therapist, a friend, or partner to “get you,” which means to really see and understand you, a reasonable request? Is… Read more

I just started a course in Transactional Analysis, and we were discussing the qualities we would like to see in a psychotherapist. One person said they wanted a therapist to “get them.” Is wanting a therapist, a friend, or partner to “get you,” which means to really see and understand you, a reasonable request? Is… Read more

I remember once when my son said to me in a playful way “Dad don’t choose fear!” I appreciated the reminder, but I also got a bit frustrated. I thought “I want the freedom to choose thoughts that make me fearful if I want – don’t tell me what to do!” I listened this week… Read more

Lately I’ve been feeling like I’m riding this big roller coaster of feelings. It feels as if an inner door had opened and suddenly all feelings began to manifest in a whirlwind. It was even difficult to honestly answer people’s question about how I was doing. Emotionally, there was a lot of movement within me,… Read more